We’ve all been there—those moments when life feels like it’s frozen, when every effort to move forward feels heavy and uncertain. We know we have to keep going but we just can’t figure out how. Whether it’s in your career, relationships, creative projects, or personal growth, feeling stuck can be frustrating, overwhelming, and downright discouraging. But here’s the thing: being stuck isn’t the end of the road. It’s simply a pause—a sign that it’s time to shift perspectives, recalibrate, and ignite fresh momentum.
In this blog, we’re diving into the mindset shifts, practical strategies, and gentle reminders that can help you break free from inertia and step confidently toward your next chapter, keep reading—you’ve got this.
Let’s start by looking at a work scenario. If you’re in a sales or business development roll, trying to get your own business off the ground, or just trying to climb the corporate ladder. how many times have you heard just call 100 people today, you’ll talk to 25 of them and 5 of those 25 will become clients. This formula is great, and over the course of a year that’s 1300 clients, that’s a lot!
But then you sit there and you stare at your list and then you scroll through your phone, look around the room, realize you are hungry, think about the conversation you had this morning with your partner, and on and on and on. This is a normal response, it is a conditioned response. Your subconscious is responding the only way it knows how in that moment because the idea of calling 100 people is a threat to your system, you go into a fight, flight, or freeze state. You think about the 75 people that don’t answer and the 20 people that say no or screw off and your nervous system wants to protect you from that rejection.
You know how all of this feels, and you know if you want to be successful, you have to somehow find a way to make the calls….keep reading, I will help you reprogram your system to override the feelings of angst, rejections, annoyance and all the negative you feel about making the dang calls.
Ok, so let’s move on to a more life in general scenario. Let’s think of a vision board, it is good, feels good, nice direction but unless you consciously adjust your frequency by releasing past conditioning, false ideas, other people’s influence, get rid of storylines, fears, doubt that are either old or not yours, you will just keep getting the same outcome over and over and over. No amount of pictures glued to a board will get you there without some internal work first.
Why is what you’re doing right now not working and no fun…. you’re in survival mode (fight/flight) and have literally lost cognitive function, communication skills, risk management and productivity. If you try to create from this state, you won't get the optimal outcome.
What you are doing when you are in your stress response, survival mode is avoiding the threat!…..well at least the perceived threat based on your conditioned patterns.
I can tell you what you are doing right now, you are looking outside of yourself for an answer, validation, direction, acceptance. Outside is both your problem and your solution in your mind, but that’s wrong. This is something/one else’s goals and agenda and by following along you give your power away, deplete your energy and feel exhausted…. AND THIS IS VERY LIMITING, because it almost never shows up for you in the way you want it to.
WHAT IS DRIVING YOU RIGHT NOW……and keeping you stuck
1) False beliefs
2) Flat out lies or made up stories
3) Other people’s opinions or judgements.
4) Life experiences
5) Conditioning
WHAT CAN YOU DO INSTEAD
1) Define your goal and Relax
2) Ask yourself what’s real / according to who? / Do you know for sure?
3) Continue to grow awareness
4) Use gap energy, the pause when you can’t control the outcome, you can control your reaction.
And never forget to Celebrate every tiny win! Remember you are building a muscle here so that is begins to feel natural…..why do people often say, “it never gets easy” or “ I still get butterflies every time.”…..because they haven’t taken that old conditioning out and replaced the root system.
What is going to happen when you start putting these steps into action? Your ego is going to throw a fit and send you red flags all over the place, remember it wants to be in control….how do you stop it, AWARENESS, that is it.
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